Thursday, November 17, 2005

A Case of Parental Responsibility.

While perusing today's Houston Chronicle I ran across this Article and thought to myself "Now here is a parent that obviously cares about the welfare of her daughter enough to try to get across to her the importance of an education."
But then I read a bit further that some nutjob "Child Psychologist" thinks this is just horrible and that the Mother is "psychologically killing" this wayward kid.

Uh EXCUSE ME? What cracker jack box did your diploma come out of? Or did you attend the same school Shirley DeLibrio did?

Look, she's tried taking away privileges, she tried making her give up Basketball and Track. He claims "it is better to reward good behavior than punishing bad behavior" NO No No NO! It is important to do both! But in the absence of good behavior to reward, you have to work with what you have.

I have a 12 year old that if left to her own devices would be headed down the same track. She isn't disruptive in class, she is actually well behaved, but she forgets to do her work, or looses it or forgets to turn it in, and the work she does do is rushed through and only half-done most of the time. we've tried a number of things to get her to document what her homework is, and to have her get her teachers to initial her "tracker" (essentially a day planner issued by the school to all students) to ensure she is writing it all down correctly. we've tried many of the same methods with limited success. I'm afraid I may need to cobble up a sandwich board for her if things don't improve.


Blogger Pigilito said...

I thought it was a novel way to get the kid's attention. Sometimes it takes a figurative whack on the head to get kids' attention these days.

My nine year old suffers from some of the same homework problems (rushed work, improperly checked)as your daughter. One can't very well reward (beyond praise) a child for actually doing what she is supposed to do. In cases like missed or shoddy homework assignments, punishment seems the best option.

November 18, 2005 7:23 AM  
Blogger Kathy Herrmann said...

The psychologist seems to be coming from the "self-esteem is everything" school of thought, even if the esteem is backed up with air.

Here's what I saw in the article...
Tasha Henderson got tired of her 14-year-old daughter's poor grades, her chronic lateness to class...She made Coretha stand at a busy Oklahoma City intersection Nov. 4 with a sign that read: "I don't do my homework and I act up in school, so my parents are preparing me for my future. Will work for food."

In the real world, if an employee is chronically late (with no good excuse like a known and excused serious illness impacting performance), if s/he fails do meet deadlines, or act in an insubordinate manner (and especially on a recurring basis), then in the real world, that individual will be fired. The employee's "self-esteem" would be the farthest thing from a manager's mind.

Seems to me the best way to build a child's self-esteem is to give kid tools for real life for survival at the least and prosperity at the most.

Tanya gets that and the psychologist doesn't.

P.S. The article also made me think of judges who have used shaming as a way to get the attention of criminals of misdemeanors.

November 18, 2005 7:00 PM  
Blogger Cory said...

Further proof that a PhD doesn't reflect one's level of intelligence.


November 18, 2005 9:08 PM  
Anonymous said...

Mom would probably like to do more than just "psychologically" kill the little b@st@rd! :^D

November 19, 2005 2:14 AM  

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